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Friendships that Help You Grow

gf1Once in a while, amongst all my trend forecasting and my beauty blabbing, I like to throw in a post with some real substance, a post that can really make you think and shift your perspective and today is one of those days.

Recently, I had a transformational experience with a group of girlfriends that I adore, that really challenged and frustrated me, but most importantly it helped me grow and become a better person by going through it. It also made my relationship with these women even stronger because we were honest, real, confrontational yet constructive.

Do you have friends like this? Friends that call you on your shit? Friends who don’t let you off the hook easily and make you really look at the way you live your life in hopes that you will learn and grow from the experience? I DO!! At times I don’t like it, the self-absorbed little girl inside me says “whatever, I don’t care what you think, I know I am right so there!” but the adult woman inside me knows better. I know I have hurt them by making a decision that impacts their lives without thinking about the consequences of my actions beforehand. My adult self knows how important self-less-ness is, and how in the future I need to think about the consequences of my actions on others before just doing whatever I want. I have learned that its time to be a grown-up, less impulsive and more thoughtful. And it’s not easy, it’s hard but worth it becasue that’s where the growth opportunity—Oh yeah, and admitting you were wrong, that’s hard too.

Is this at all relatable to you? Do you have friends that raise your game? Friends that by being in relation to them, you grow and become a better person? Fluffy relationships are a dime a dozen, but real in-depth honest relationships are the ones that enrich your life and help you grow.

To these women (The Sage, Hippie and Do-Gooder), I say thank you for being in my life, for not letting me off the hook easily and for making our relationship stronger because of your brutal honesty. To those of you reading this, I want you to know how precious these more challenging relationships are and that they definitely are worth fighting for–treasure them because they are rare and special.

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  1. CK says

    March 3, 2011 at 10:14 pm

    … that’s who I think when I read this post.

    Reply
  2. CK says

    March 3, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    I would be lost without my sisters!!!!

    Reply
  3. sandy says

    March 3, 2011 at 6:15 pm

    true. having good friends and talking to them with no inhibitions is the best counselling you can have!

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  4. morgan says

    March 3, 2011 at 1:15 pm

    We just had a great talk about this at my MOPS group this morning. It is so important to be and have honest and transparent friends … tough but crucial!

    Thanks for sharing!

    Enjoy your SITS day! 🙂

    Reply
  5. DivinePainter says

    March 3, 2011 at 11:03 am

    Right on, Romy! Great post. A true friend is both hard to FIND and BE! I say this affirmation every day “The like-minded, like-hearted, kindred spirits I seek are also seeking me. We come together in the divine right order.” Wonderful new friends have begun to enter my life. And I will try my very best to be the very best friend I can as I explore and build these new relationships. Visiting from SITS. 🙂

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  6. Karen V. says

    March 3, 2011 at 7:02 am

    I so know what you mean. The best friends we have are the ones who are blunt and honest and call you on your mistakes but still stick with you and help you grow. There are a lot of people I have come to know through the blogosphere that have become my heros, people who sacrifice and see the good in others without preaching or thinking they are better than me. Glad you have these kinds of friends and what a wonderful way to tell them how special they are through this post! Congrats SITS girl for your feature!!

    Reply
  7. Marie Cole says

    March 3, 2011 at 6:47 am

    Yes, life without them would be very hard and well boring too. 😉

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  8. Jeannie Finelli, RN says

    March 3, 2011 at 5:26 am

    Good friendships even improve your health!

    Reply
  9. Healthier and Wealthier says

    March 3, 2011 at 3:59 am

    Nothing like having those good girlfriends! Mine are the best…just the best.

    Reply
  10. Tiffany says

    March 2, 2011 at 11:13 pm

    Happy SITS day! I do have one or two good friends like yours. Those are the relationships that make a difference in your life. Great post!

    Reply
  11. Aipopo says

    September 17, 2009 at 1:03 pm

    I had friends like that and they moved away or died.

    Try to replace that kind of friendship and it is very difficult to dind.

    I cherish my memories.;

    Reply
  12. Heather says

    August 22, 2009 at 9:36 am

    I really enjoyed this blog. I have had many of these moments with my friends. Some needed… some hurtful and some spiteful. Anyhow… thanks for writing about it.

    Reply
  13. Barbara says

    August 22, 2009 at 9:15 am

    I had friends like that and they moved away or died.

    Try to replace that kind of friendship and it is very difficult to find.

    I cherish my memories.

    Reply

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